Proverbs 25:28.A man without self-control
is like a city broken into and left without walls.
1 Peter 4:7.The end of all things is at hand; therefore be self-controlled and sober-minded for the sake of your prayers.
Mark 9:43–48And if your hand causes you to sin, cut it off. It is better for you to enter life crippled than with two hands to go to hell, to the unquenchable fire. And if your foot causes you to sin, cut it off. It is better for you to enter life lame than with two feet to be thrown into hell. And if your eye causes you to sin, tear it out. It is better for you to enter the kingdom of God with one eye than with two eyes to be thrown into hell, ‘where their worm does not die and the fire is not quenc
Lesson:
To control another person’s through any means is a perversion of the gift of free will that God intends for all. Even though one may believe what they are doing is for the good of the person or people they are controlling it is still against God’s will. Mark 7:20-23 is clear that our acts flow from our heart; an abusive person chooses to do what they do because they want what they want (James 4:1). Control/oppression violates God’s design for our relationships.Trying to control someone—in marriage, parenting, the church, or government—is evil. The Bible recognizes authority, but it takes a strong stand against control. If someone abuses God-given authority, they become perpetrators of evil.How to deal with controlling people.
Communicate
using “I” statements, such as “I feel hurt,” to speak in a way that reduces feelings of blame.
discussing ways to divide responsibilities or share control.
offering alternative courses of action to replace the behavior, such as making plans together rather than the person making plans for them.
Some potential causes of controlling behavior are: low self-esteem; being micromanaged or controlled by someone else; traumatic past experiences; a need to feel in-control; or a need to feel ‘above’ someone else. None of these have to do with you, the victim of inappropriate control.How to be less controlling
Identify what causes your need for control. …
Build your self-awareness. …
Reprogram your mind. …
Ban control-oriented language from your vocabulary. …
Develop your communication skills. …
Adopt healthier habits. …
Get an outside perspective.
Closing Prayer:
Lord, I pray that Your grace and mercy would lead and guide me and take control. But Lord, I also ask that You would teach me how to submit my life to You. Show me how to abide in You day by day, and instruct me how to live in spirit and truth.
Proverbs 19:21 reminds us, “Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails.” If you feel out of control, it’s because you are. But you couldn’t be in better hands. Proverbs 16:3-4 says, “Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and he will establish your plans.
Closing Prayer: Heavenly Father help us not to have a controlling spirit. Help us all to become children of yours who are not so they can get to know you and look to you to help with being delivered from the spirit of control. We pray in the name of Our l lord and savior.
Prayer for renewing faith
Heavenly Father, I’m asking You to give me eyes to see, ears to hear, and a heart to receive Your correction and guidance, as I seek a faith revolution in my life—a dramatic turnaround in my thinking, believing, speaking and acting. I ask You to give me the strength to hold strong in the days ahead.
Lord Jesus take complete control of my life and help me to walk in Your footsteps daily by the power of the Holy Spirit. Thank you Lord for saving me and I know you will answer my prayers. In Jesus name I pray. Amen.
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